It was just a drink -2

#Life_story #The_African_way

Greetings my friends, today I am sharing part 2 of our story. Part 1 can be read from here.🤗

The day I asked about your father, it felt as though I had poured cold water onto your skin.
Your big lovely eyes popped up and I also noticed your heart racing faster than Bolt.
As much as I had met your twin brothers, I had never heard you talk about daddy.
So on that day when I asked you about your father, it’s then that you told me about your sour relationship with him.
You asserted that you do not talk to him in-depth beyond just greeting and this was from since you were a child.
You only talked to mum on a small scale but otherwise, you made mention of how you are alone, all by yourself hustling hard.
This gave me insight as to why you always asked me how I easily related with both my parents and siblings.
You practically did not have a healthy relationship with your dad and you never wanted to talk about it beyond what you had already said.
I wholeheartedly respected your decision and chose to move forward.

A year passed and our lives progressed,
We continued to do life together
You had captured my heart and I was very willing to do anything and work very hard just for us to lead better lives
Thanks be to God for the fact that I had a small job then that helped me support us financially.
Oh, how I was willing to support us because I knew I had found a seed in you and therefore I needed to water it so that God grows it to fruition.
There is no single day that I showed up at your house empty-handed
I always carried something for us and for you to keep and consume later
I loved carrying yogurt and food because we enjoyed this as we binge-watched movies
One that I recall us enjoying the most is God friended me, a series we both loved.

Saying that I loved you is an understatement,
Mehnnnnn
……………………you were my life🙈
I saw an organized future with you…
You were my kind of prayer answered and always looked forward to our firstborn son
Similarly, you tried to show me that you loved me through your physical availability and hugs.

You were available to spend time with me
You supported my ideas of growing our emotional and economic muscle
You constantly shared wisdom with me regarding different life issues and decisions
You even silenced some babe who almost beat me up for stealing you…
Hahaha,
I never knew that ‘one can beat one another on assumption that one was having an affair with one’s boyfriend.
That was romantic in my eyes🤗
You cried and laughed with me
We even played together..
Your love was so tender and that got me to relax so much to extent that it was easy for me to surrender my baby phone to you to use as you run your errands
I did not mind being off air for as long as I had helped you be online and keep coordinating all your work
I wanted the best for you and I,
I believed in your gigantic dreams too…

Honestly, I still believe that one day you will be the great Entrepreneur you have always dreamed of.

I believed in our relationship and went ahead to settle it in my mind, that I had arrived when it came to relationships.
I thought you were there to dwell
I thought we were on the same page
I thought we had a similar end goal in mind

As time continued to fly, everything was well until I started to notice your inconsistencies
For all the years we were an item,
You never remembered my birthday😭
Not even after the many countless times I opened up to you about the importance of my birthday in my life…
Your not being concerned about it got me thinking many things
Especially, the saddest birthday where you stood me up at your friend’s hostel.
I remember how miserable I looked waiting for you to return

Tears falling

Generally,
I noticed that;
You would only show up when you needed physical, financial or emotional help.
I do not remember any day I was with you and all that concerns you was ok…
You always had some drama going on and I interpreted that as you being vulnerable and hence I needed to be there and love on you…
I took up the responsibility of fighting your battles with you
This I did whole heartedly but it was all in vain…
You still woke up one day and complained absmall-bodied bodied I am and yet you are attracted to chubby females
You still pushed me to become chubbier or else I risked losing you
Yogurt and other fattening items were a must on our menus but I never concentrated on them the times I was away from you
I did not consider it a big deal till you over mentioned it in our conversations
You still went ahead to ghost me for 2 years
You still refused to pick my calls and neither did you pay back any of the cash I had loaned to you

You simply got all we…
or should I say,
all I had built and threw it into a trash can
After all the ghosting for close to 3 years, you decided to end business with me.
Yes, the relationship turned into a business
You did it in the best way you knew how by simply letting me know how you then had started a family of your own
You did not explain anything
You simply moved on
Not caring about me…
Your moving on sent me into my second bad break up
Nothing kills one’s heart like a silent break up

When I sit and try to remember all the good times we had, the unhappy ending,
I can’t help but believe that it was just a drink.

There was no love in that glass you handed me the first day you saw me. It was just a drink that I took and the glass was left empty.

Yes indeed,

It was just a drink!💔💔💔

Walking away

Till then,

I am the Lioness Arising!
©Words from the Pot


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34 Comments Add yours

  1. Bolaji Gelax says:

    Whattttt??? I’m so pissed right now!

    I’m pissed at him, and at you! He ghosted you in a relationship for 3 friggin’ years? What were you still doing there all the while 😩😩😩

    He was just a bloody user and I feel like knocking his teeth off. He’s CANCELLED! He never happened! ❌🚫❌🚫

    Liked by 2 people

    1. justynlove says:

      Hehe… What I was still doing there??? Is another story that I will share some day…

      The ghosting was a special one. He would disappear for two weeks then show up, disappear for one month then show up. And the fact that I was working, I would let it pass in disguise that he too is busy hustling…

      Indeed my sunshine… He is cancelled

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      1. Bolaji Gelax says:

        Damn! I’m sorry you went through that, Lover 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

        Liked by 1 person

      2. justynlove says:

        🤗🤗🤗

        Liked by 1 person

  2. Yhooooooooo 😶😶😶
    Sis, what??? Wow I… Are you okay? Sjoe these life experiences we need to go through

    Liked by 2 people

    1. justynlove says:

      Sis

      I am good. I am okay

      Liked by 1 person

    2. justynlove says:

      Thanks for reading

      Liked by 1 person

    3. justynlove says:

      I miss you my sister… I should dm you

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Yes sis. I shall await your dm

        Liked by 1 person

  3. conniedia says:

    Ok am torn between hugging you and clapping that man.

    But whyyyyyyy whyyyyyyy how does someone hurt someone so bad without remorse

    I can only say just because they loved you wrong doesn’t mean the right one won’t come.

    May you have a blessed marriage that will glorify his name am glad he still warned you Better a broken rstlp than a broken marriage.

    Hugs sis hugs

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    1. justynlove says:

      I receive the hugs my sister… Thanks so much…

      I do believe the right one will show up some day.

      Like

  4. Kuc says:

    Life mwatu…hope its now what it is…a story…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      Life mwatu indeed… Yes, it is just a story

      Like

    2. justynlove says:

      Thanks for reading

      Like

  5. Wonani says:

    Some things just never make any sense! Why would someone consciously do that??
    I’m with Bolaji wondering what happened during those three years?!

    I hope you are doing wel 🤗❤

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      Yes
      Wonani, I am doing well…

      I think some people just do not mind about others

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Wonani says:

        Glad you are.

        They don’t mind at all!

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  6. Wow. A big hug to you.
    I do hope you are good and over it now?.
    Abba’s kind of man will definitely show up. He still gives good gifts. Be encouraged.
    Thanks for sharing your story. ❤

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    1. justynlove says:

      Yes dear, I am good and over it.

      Thanks for the encouragement

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Glad to know you are.
        You are welcome. ❤

        Liked by 1 person

  7. But why do guys ghost? Communicate, I repeat communicate!! If you’re tired just voice it to avoid time wasting, otherwise so bad you had to go through all that in all those many years…Damn … Good to know you’re back on your feet 💪🏾

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      Yes , God brought me back onto my feet. Thanks for reading brother

      Like

  8. Winnie Malinga says:

    I am in great awe of such deep seated love, devotion and loyalty. Such incredible faith in the good you see in others until they abuse it so bad you can’t lie to yourself any longer. I am glad you heard the voice of God. How He loves you. You will be loved better!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      Yes, I shall be lived better

      Like

    2. justynlove says:

      Thanks for reading and encouraging me

      Like

  9. Jordana Atim says:

    All I can say is, I do not understand men. And he is the loser, he lost a good one, he lost a good thing. He was never meant for you and you will find someone that is worthy of your love. DO NOT give up on love.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      I can never give up on love.

      I am called to love and for as long as I am Alive, I will trust God to help me continue to love

      Thanks for reading a d commenting

      Like

  10. Lynette 😍 says:

    Justine, First of all I commend you for sharing your stories 😘😱😱😱🥺🥺🥺🙊🙊Wuuuuuu!!! Also this man!!!Anyway I want to understand these three years but I’ve also been there, mine was shorter but I totally understand 😘😘. I shall hug you and probably give you a drink…this time with so much love in it

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      Thanks dear one

      🥰🥰🥰

      Like

    2. justynlove says:

      I receive the hug in advance

      Like

  11. Tim says:

    You look at someone like Justine, the way her soul radiates love through her eyes, the smile she melts one’s soul and you wonder what do some people want?

    Liked by 1 person

    1. justynlove says:

      Surely, what do they want…

      But it was just a drink

      Liked by 1 person

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