November is Men’s health awareness month and therefore I choose to honor the men God has blessed me with in my life by sharing the lessons I learned from each of them. These are virtues or principles that I learned from them that I am applying in my life. It shall therefore be a three-part series.
Today I start with sharing about the principles I learned from my;
My biological dad, the late Godfrey Emmanuel Munyambabazi will forever be my hero. He is my first love in physical form here on earth. He was the only husband to my mother and we grew up with him at home till he was called to glory. His life on earth was one I call peaceful and loving. From the 13 years I lived with him, below are the
Lessons/ principles I learned from him;
If I have loved, it is because I have been loved by the best including my dad.
I grew up as a middle child and my father’s love for me was evident. I was always affirmed and cherished. I grew up as a princess.
Daddy also loved my mother plus my siblings. His commitment to mum was proof of his love for her and us his children. He also let mum shine her shine through serving her gifts to the world and for me, this showed me how love doesn’t seek its own.
One of the ways he also expressed his love for us was through acts of service and protection. Daddy always prepared tasty food for us ( he made the best meat) and ensured we are safe. He loved to spend time with us always telling us interesting stories from his childhood. Stories that would get us laughing and bonded and learning different lessons. Right there was him teaching us to be present for those we love.
He always rushed to treat us each time we fell sick (as he had a medical background? that is our health mattered to him and he never left this role to mummy. I also saw him love his friends effortlessly. Daddy had friends all over the world and he always told us to cherish our friends because they are our human gold. Sometimes, even in his absentia, we have been blessed by some of his friends we even did not know. They have loved on us with gifts and for me, this is love living beyond.
Daddy always stuck with us in both good and bad times. He celebrated our wins and encouraged us during tough moments. He stuck with us and always returned home to us on a daily. For me this got me witnessing the truth that love bears all.
Daddy corrected me when I did wrong, he taught me how to say sorry and what is love if it doesn’t correct. Love corrects its own for the better and that is what daddy did for my siblings and I. Love was daddy’s other name.
Daddy was a very generous man. He shared his time, resources, and sometimes his children too.
We always had feasts at home where our relatives would come and we share great meals and moments. Sometimes we also shared our family space with at least one relative who was either an aunt or uncle or cousin. I saw daddy going to extra mile to be a blessing to his family and friends, always willing to be of help. Each time we had fresh food from the village, we had to share it with our neighbors.
He always encouraged us to share with the world what we have. I remember being given out to 2 families in the name of helping the children in those families with their studies so that they could understand school things better and become victors too. At first, I found this weird and uncomfortable, so I decided to ask daddy why he was doing it. I remember him telling me one thing, he told me that he wanted me to share my knowledge with those children so that we all can win. This encouraged me and up to date, I am glad that I was allowed to go to those two families. God has used them to touch and make my life better with great friends and even education scholarships. It was one of these families that got me through high school like a princess.
To us his own family, daddy always blessed us with his skills, good food, smiles, time, love, and encouragement. He made sure we ate fine food, had fine clothes, enjoyed photographic moments, and reminded us to try and meet other people’s needs.
I saw daddy help other people access medical services and other services. He always helped people with their tasks and maybe this partly explains the kind of person I have turned out to be. Daddy was the go-to person for all kinds of information be it history, economics, current affairs, directions, philosophy … He always read books and kept a journal/diary. Seeing him do this made me love being informed. I will read and seek knowledge in all ways possible because I believe it will help me or someone else in the future.
Having a military background and a disciplined father (my grandfather -rip) made it easy for daddy to raise disciplined children.
Time, space, and personal management were very important in our family.
When it came to time, ewo…we had to be punctual. Daddy and mummy made sure we always woke up on time so we get to school on time. We had schedules for everything right from the morning activities to weekend and holiday activities. We had rotas for housework and we had time allocated to the different childhood activities. For example, a day during school term ran like this; wake up early, pray, greet daddy, shower, dress up, take tea, go to school, return home, wash your school stockings, clean your shoes, play for 30minutes or more depending, bathe, do homework, watch the news, have supper and retire to bed. Altering this schedule called for explanation or even showing up of the rod. I specifically learned punctuality from daddy. He always told us that time is a resource that needs to be respected and used productively.
Orderliness was another virtue daddy had. Everything was to be done in order and gently with obedience. I had to wait for the weekend to invite our friends to play at home, I had to sleep knowing my school bag was intact, school uniform ironed, homework signed and shoes polished. Beds had to be laid, plates had to be organized a certain way … etc. Daddy was just a man of order who followed his plans and only adjusted where need me. He taught me how to set appointments and honor them.
Daddy taught us to be clean too. The house had to be cleaned daily and sometimes twice, compound swept, bathing was a must and our laundry done. Daddy used to shave off our hair himself to ensure we are well-groomed.
Trust him to come to check through the house or utensils to ensure cleaning was done well. He taught me how to deliver excellence and stay in a clean environment. Daddy was always picking leaves from the compound. Tidiness was in his blood. His clothes were well pressed and was always smart. I learned smartness from him.
Daddy taught us how to respect authority and follow through with assignments to the end. I learned respect from him. I remember being slapped (the only 1 I got from him) for sending another person to bring salt for mummy yet I was the one she had sent. What got me slapped was the fact that I was doing nothing which came off as disrespect to dad. I was told that when a parent sends you for something or asks for help, it is respectful of me to show up. Ever since then, it is easy for me to respect authority in my life.
Daddy was a general with a big heart. He valued commitment, discipline, and family. He left behind a great legacy of love and beautiful administrators who are still serving the world
He was life himself!
I thank God for having blessed my life with him. His living contributed a lot to the great person I am today.
To you my friend,
I pray that you learn something good from each person God has blessed you with be it your parents. Together let’s keep learning. I hope the above can help you lead a better life.
Stay blessed and safe.
I love you!
I am the Lioness Arising
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